If you don’t play this right from the beginning, if you gloss over the rough patches rather than sanding them smooth early, I’m telling you, you are assured of trying times ahead. That’s one of the results of menopause, it looks at the big picture and tallies up the negative, not the positives mind you, the negatives, and brings them right up under their nose where they can smell it . It tells them, life is short, and in the words of that lady on the viral video, “ain’t nobody got time for that”…so fellas, circle the wagons.. disengage forward thrusters!! Repairing that structure now, is a herculean task, not gonna happen.
We can’t play the blame game… but I will…it does take 2 to tango, and she may have told you things along the way, but she never “Told You Things” along the way. In the tone, or delivery a man can understand. You don’t scold the dog who just peed on your leg by saying ” Spike, would this be a good time to discuss some issues that concern me? “, you say SPIKE!.. NO!!!!
As sad as it is, men are closer to the dogs comprehension level than we would like to admit.
Look, you can get out the directions, follow them explicitly, and still be on the chopping block, but at least you took away some of the ammo. Or, on second thought, since it won’t matter, make up your own rules, just know… the game is rigged!